Ohhhhkayyyyyyyyy well, I’m back.
To be completely honest I’ve written three blogs since my last upload, two of which I accidentally deleted (how does one even do so) and the other I just thought was a little too private. This one is definitely going up, no ifs or buts.
Im going to just dive straight into this topic.
People. People in relationships. Relationships. Yep, I’m going to be talking about the ever so complicated topic of relationships, whether that be a positive relationship or a negative relationship, I’m just going to be discussing them – whether you agree with me or not I’m not the one to entirely care.
Relationships come in all different kinds such as FRIENDSHIPS, ROMANTIC, ACQUAINTANCE, what’s the word for people who dislike each-other?, STRANGERS and ALOT OF OTHER ONES THAT I CAN’T BE BOTHERED TO LIST. I think a lot of people would be thinking around about now ‘you’re 13 what would you know about relationships?’, literally nothing, nothing at all but then again who does? People will tell you what they think a (good/healthy/one that you can survive) relationship is but that’s only one person’s view, I mean what about the other 7,411,852,431 (sometime between 10:23-10:24pm on the 29.3.16) people/opinions in the world? Relationships are something you need to learn about for yourself.
DISCLAIMER: I’m about to tell you about my personal experiences with different relationships, I am not telling you what type of relationship whether it be friendship/romantic (what not) or good/bad, it’s for you to have your own views and opinions on (ALTHOUGH I AM NOT SAYING ‘FEEL FREE TO TELL ME HOW BAD OR GOOD I AM WITH RELATIONSHIPS’).
There are going to be a lot of people you will come across that are not worth your time or effort, but then there will be a few that you just can’t let go.
There are people who you aren’t always sure about – where do they sit? With those relationships I don’t believe you should rush, don’t try and figure it all out as if you’ll suffer long consequences if you don’t; just give it time.
People who use you in order to gain for themselves. This type, this is the relationship I could go a little too far into but hey this is my blog. You may quickly make the assumption that I’m describing or talking about bullying, which could be partially true but not entirely. This type of relationship can quite often go ‘undetected’ or it can really just fly under the radar as sometimes the person who is actually being used may not be getting harmed or pained in anyway. For instance, (personal experience) someone interprets something you did in a negative way that wasn’t meant to be, and/or in fact it wasn’t seen like this by anyone but them, this person will then use their opinion in order to gain people on their ‘side’/put people against you. This type of relationship results in the changing of other relationships, for the ones who see you did no wrong could go from being a stranger to becoming a friend and so forth. Relationships like these can also be beneficial for either people in the relationship, such as meeting new people. This leads me onto my next relationship type that is closely linked to this one.
‘Friend’s friends’ or becoming friends with friends of your friend’s. I believe meeting people who know your friends is a great way to create new relationships and to grow (I sound like a teacher lmao good for me). Some might think ‘isn’t that an invasion of their space?’ and yeah it can be, but you just have to know your limits. Just because someone is friends with someone first that does not mean that that person is their property or more rightfully their friend. You have just as much right to explore the human race as the next person does.
Helping relationships. ‘Helping relationships’ to me means there is a form of reliance between the people in the relationship, a form of aid and care. This somewhat meaning that either one or all people in the relationship could be struggling with something(anything) and the people in the relationship are there for them constantly. I know I said I wouldn’t put distinct positive/negative impacts they may have but I feel it is relevant for this topic. Relationships like these can be really benefitting for people who struggle with something (anything) and yes I believe there should be a degree of this in every positive relationship although it can turn very negative when such things start occurring – one starts to believe their problems are more important/relevant, each persons problems are added to each others to create larger problems for each-other, when both people require a form of help but only one receives this tending.
That’s enough of the relationship types for now.
[I believe we should] Just let the people you love know that you love them.
[I believe we should] Let the people go who don’t do any good.
[I believe we should] Give people space when they ask for it, no matter how harsh their words are.
Okay this blog is getting very long so I’m going to finish things off. I just want to add in that not all of this was from personal experience that I myself have been involved in but some occasions that I’ve witnessed these relationship types or things like these happening.
I hope you all had a wonderful Easter too (if you don’t celebrate Easter than I hope you’ve been happy in general).
Bella x🖖🏻
A little art piece I did which reads “She intensified the world she walked by the way she put the wind at ease”
I got a whole heap of flower seeds (I hope they grow, my gardening skills aren’t exactly great)
This is my new little plant, his name is Flanders and he is a Venus fly trap (he’s really little) 🌱
I wouldn’t call this a collage, more so a collection of pictures I cut out of a variety of different magazines.
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